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Grammar Tip: She and I, Not Her and I

Posted by CreateSpaceBlogger on Feb 5, 2013 5:51:50 AM

I go to the store. She goes to the store.

She and I go to the store.

Simple, right? Apparently not, because everywhere I go, and every time I turn on the TV, I hear people say things such as "Her and I go to the store" or "Her and I have been friends since college" or "Him and I get along great."

Why is this grammar mistake so common? You would never say "Her went to the store," right? So why would you say "Her and I went to the store?" And you would never say "Karen saw I," right? Or does "Karen gave I the apple" sound correct to you?

Here's how it works:

"I" and "she" are subject pronouns, i.e. they can be used as the subjects in a sentence.

  • I go to the store.
  • She goes to the store.

"Me" and "her" are object pronouns, i.e. they can be used as direct or indirect objects in a sentence.

  • Direct object: Karen saw me.
  • Indirect object: Karen gave me the apple.
  • Direct object: Karen saw her.
  • Indirect object: Karen gave her the apple.

The fight for good grammar in the written and spoken word rages on, but I'm determined to do my part to stop the madness. I hope you will help me!

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Feb 5, 2013 8:24 AM Vulcan    says:

I hear "me and Karen" all the time in real life and on TV.  Unless the rules have changed in the ____ years since I was in school, this is wrong too.    Grammar was very important back then; now I wonder if it is even being taught.

Feb 5, 2013 9:37 AM Seal    says:

It does make one wonder how anyone got out of high school and into the script writing business using "me and him", "her and I", and "him and I". Proper grammar is NOT stilted phrasing meant to indicate a superior social class, it is to clarify both the spoken and written word.



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Feb 20, 2013 10:17 AM mamamia    says:

That is a 'pet' peeve of mine, too. Also, I don't like the misuse of to, too, and two, or your and you're, or their, they're, and there, etc...


I have to many tests today. Should be:  I have too many tests today.


Your wrong about that. Should be:  You're wrong about that.

Dec 9, 2017 3:51 AM Dolphin27    says:

Good point.

May 20, 2018 10:23 PM keerthi    says:

Very useful information Maria.



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Jul 6, 2018 5:19 PM KatriPateu    says:

This is one of my pet peeves also. And so many people speak with such head held high ignnorance when they do it. And their children say "me and him".

It's worse than a scratching chalkboard to me.

Aug 21, 2018 3:37 AM AnnaMid    says:

Thanks for these tips. I will include some of them when will write my paper. Have a nice day!